The last 10 days or so have been surreal. The time with our family and friends and the actual wedding celebration were amazing and there is nothing I would change. Well almost nothing. I was asked a few times the night of the wedding if I felt different, and immediately I didn't. I mean yes, for a few days I received more attention that I probably ever had in my lifetime but other than that I didn't immediately feel different.
However, when friends and family left and it was "back to normal" how I felt was anything but, I did start to feel different, we feel different. In a good way - we were suddenly stronger, a unit not two individuals. There are little things that I have noticed have changed in each of us, on how we are towards each other, how we deal when we are frustrated, and how we are connecting on a day to day basis. It's something I didn't quite expect, no one had ever shared that they felt different after the wedding. Suddenly, I have a new number 1 priority and it's our marriage and everything that comes with that and it feel GOOD.
As someone who wasn't exactly a winner in the relationship department, I was really surprised how different I felt. But what is the most surprising thing is that we are both feeling it. Closer, stronger, tighter - we knew we were in love but this feeling of being a singular unit is something I don't think either of us were expecting.
If I have one regret, it's not taking more time for us immediately after the wedding so we could enjoy this new feeling together a little bit more. I now know why people take honeymoon's right away - to get to know this new couple. Newlywed couples should have a little time alone to enjoy each other and to unwind from the stress and excitement of getting ready for a wedding. Whether you realize it or not, the relationship is now different - and it's important to enjoy that fact.
Then there are the other more obvious ways of feeling different - I have new last name, a new address, and we have new plans that 18 months ago neither of us probably would have ever thought possible. So yes, I feel very different and its a very good different. I now have a permanent rock to stand by - for as long as we both shall live - and it's the most wonderful feeling in the world.