Monday, August 27, 2012

Do You Feel Different?

The last 10 days or so have been surreal. The time with our family and friends and the actual wedding celebration were amazing and there is nothing I would change. Well almost nothing. I was asked a few times the night of the wedding if I felt different, and immediately I didn't. I mean yes, for a few days I received more attention that I probably ever had in my lifetime but other than that I didn't immediately feel different.

However, when friends and family left and it was "back to normal" how I felt was anything but, I did start to feel different, we feel different.  In a good way - we were suddenly stronger, a unit not two individuals. There are little things that I have noticed have changed in each of us, on how we are towards each other, how we deal when we are frustrated, and how we are connecting on a day to day basis. It's something I didn't quite expect, no one had ever shared that they felt different after the wedding. Suddenly, I have a new number 1 priority and it's our marriage and everything that comes with that and it feel GOOD.

As someone who wasn't exactly a winner in the relationship department, I was really surprised how different I felt.  But what is the most surprising thing is that we are both feeling it. Closer, stronger, tighter - we knew we were in love but this feeling of being a singular unit is something I don't think either of us were expecting.
If I have one regret, it's not taking more time for us immediately after the wedding so we could enjoy this new feeling together a little bit more. I now know why people take honeymoon's right away - to get to know this new couple. Newlywed couples should have a little time alone to enjoy each other and to unwind from the stress and excitement of getting ready for a wedding. Whether you realize it or not, the relationship is now different - and it's important to enjoy that fact.

Then there are the other more obvious ways of feeling different - I have new last name, a new address, and we have new plans that 18 months ago neither of us probably would have ever thought possible. So yes, I feel very different and its a very good different. I now have a permanent rock to stand by - for as long as we both shall live - and it's the most wonderful feeling in the world.

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